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<strong>Definitions are very important because they articulate the fundamental concepts of the Healthy Grieving experience, which serves to differentiate terms from their common usage.</strong>

[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]<strong><img class="size-medium wp-image-287 alignright" src="http://www.grieffree.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/2thrumywindow-400x301-300x226.jpg" alt="2thrumywindow-400x301" width="300" height="226" />Attachments </strong>are anything external that gives identity and meaning to one’s life that when lost or taken away causes a deep feeling of loss and emptiness. Most attachments are so intertwined in one’s life as to be unrecognizable - they become the hidden infrastructure of one’s life.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Being honest</b></span> is the willingness to expose the experience of one’s self as it is. Being honest is the first step that allows one to see and acknowledge the construct of their reality so it can be transcended. Only in being honest can one truly see what is, not the way one wants things to be - their story.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Being vulnerable</b></span> is the experience of growth. It is experientially the loss of self identity - the raw experience of being exposed - forged from the loss of protection of one’s construct.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Construct</b></span> is an amalgamation of concepts perceived as reality; belief systems. It is the methodology of the brain’s capacity to organize and create a pseudo reality - the mind.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Context </b></span>is<b> </b>the construct that defines reality - where “defines” is both definition and meaning. Context creates the experience of life - beginning and end and time and space; existence.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>External value</b></span> is one’s self identity; anything that defines “who I am” and gives emotional meaning to one’s life, either positively or negatively. It is how one experiences self by the construct of the mind.  External value is in contrast to internal value - self value.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Grieving</strong></span> is the process of healing a loss as a result of death, separation, or ending of an attachment with others, one’s self, or some thing. Healthy grieving can only be accomplished from an open heart - a genuine willingness to let go and move forward into a life that has changed.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Innate experience of self</b></span> is the existence of “I” as me. The innate experience of self is experienced as the loss of “I am” which defined me - the transcendence of separation of the experience of who I am and my experience of my self. “I am” always defines me which creates separation; I become just me experienced without definition – I am ________.

The innate experience of self is the transcendence of context as the determinate of consciousness. It is the merging of definition and meaning - a unified experience of self.

<b><img class="size-medium wp-image-288 alignright" src="http://www.grieffree.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/sun-thru-forest-200x300-200x300.jpg" alt="sun-thru-forest-200x300" width="200" height="300" /><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Owning</span></b> is the process of seeing and accepting one’s experience of self as “I am”. It is a deep awareness, acknowledgement, and acceptance of who I am - the absence of denial. Without owning a person is suppressing, pushing away, or denying their self.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Possibilities</b></span><b> </b>is the experience of life knowing who I am.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Projection</b></span> is one’s self identity revealed by externalized experiences; how one “sees” their self - the formation of the image of one’s self. It is one’s interpretation of the world and how it functions. Projection is a one of two primary windows into the experience of self that reveals the mechanics of the construct of the mind.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Resistance</b></span><b> </b>is the experience of the mind’s intrinsic capacity to fight against the loss of self-identity- self destruction. It is experienced as shutting down - distraction, doubt, and the loss of clarity - which prevents self awareness.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Self</b></span> is the conscious awareness of one’s experience of life - the individualized expression of the unfolding of the seed. Self is experienced because of context for without context, life - existence - is everything yet defined.

<b></b><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Self acceptance</b></span> is the owned experience of self as me. It is experienced as the immutable experience of self - the knowing of who I am. Self acceptance is experientially the cessation of projection onto others and the world.

<b></b><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Self awareness</b></span> is the degree to which one has conscious inner attention to internal clues that guides one to own their experience of self. Self awareness is directly correlated to one’s willingness to change and to see change - to look deeply within to face the inner experience of vulnerability and growth.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Self identity</b></span> is one’s experience of life as reality; consciousness. It is the unrealized experience of one’s self and life: the interwoven conglomeration of all of one’s experiences expressed as “I am”. Self identity is indeterminable because the essential nature of it - self - does not exist; one can never see nor understand their self.  Self identity is an intricate enigma - “I can not see nor understand who I am because the self that I experience as “me” does not exist independent of my experiences.”

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Self love</b></span> is the willingness to being vulnerable for the sake of growth; an open heart. It is the experience of stepping into life anew - to start again, and again, in a new and fresh way. It is taking full responsibility for one’s life - a deep awareness of “I create my life experiences.”

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Self value</b></span> is the experiential knowing of who I am. It is experienced as the unarticulated inherent awareness of the accumulation of one’s growth.

<b><img class="size-medium wp-image-289 alignright" src="http://www.grieffree.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/sun-through-tree-on-hill-400x300-300x225.jpg" alt="sun-through-tree-on-hill-400x300" width="300" height="225" /><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Separation</span></b> is the definition of one’s experience as self as a construct; the awareness of one’s self identity. It is the capacity to define one’s experience of self as “that” - the critical apriority to “me” in the process of owning.

<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>The mind </b></span>is a conglomerated pseudo reality called the self. It is created by the brain by integrating one’s experiences of life.

<b></b><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><b>Trigger</b></span> is<i> </i>a window into the experience of one’s self that reveals the mechanics of the construct of the mind. With the development of self awareness, one is able to interpret triggers as an opportunity for the process of owning. A trigger is anything, such as an external act, interaction, statement, ideology or event which causes an internal emotional reaction or series of habitual reactions- a mental conflict with an established belief. If something is a trigger- sometimes blatant or subtle- it initiates a conscious or unconscious emotional reactive pattern causing denial, resistance, or confusion.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="1/3"][vc_widget_sidebar sidebar_id="sidebar"][/vc_column][/vc_row]